Amongst all your angst over the break up, a big part of you still want her back, but let’s stop for a minute and look at whether you “should” have her back to begin with.

Relationships can be beautiful and nice but that’s only one side of the coin. Often the flipside to your relationship dominates just as strongly but if you choose not to see it, it will apparently “cease” to exist. Let’s lay out the truth flat and open your eyes to the reality of the situation.

Sometimes we find ourselves in relationships that aren’t exactly the “best” match for us. Whether it means she is completely goal orientated with success and dollar signs in her eyes, or you’re more of a family guy who could care less as long as you have 5 toddlers around you, you need to see that some partners clash a great deal more than they should.

While we get caught up in the niceness of the honeymoon stage, we’re rather short-sighted and lack the ability to see too far into the future. But now that you’re “awake”, you can seek out the truth a little better.

What sort of girls should you absolutely AVOID?

There are some girls who are not worth the trouble getting back with no matter how “compatible” other areas of the relationship may be.

Who might they be? Girls who cheat regularly, girls who aren’t mature enough to handle a long-term committed relationship, girls who go through guys like they’re pairs of shoes and girls who play the game of hot and cold. You get the drift. The kind that doesn’t appear like they would settle down due to their track record, no matter what they may have said or acted with you!

Though it’s obvious to the rest of us not in the relationship, you might see things differently. This is where you need to be straight and honest with yourself. Do you deserve to be treated the way she has treated you? Would YOU do what she did to you? Do you feel that she treats you better than she treats herself and did your needs always come before hers?

That voice in your head that screams you’re making a mistake is not to be ignored, but only you can determine what you want and what is right for you.

Follow that voice but listen to your heart also. It’s best to take your time and put yourself in other environments (work or otherwise) to gain that objective perspective you need to answer this question honestly.

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